Early last fall, while living in Bangor in a kind of rooming situation, I was trying to help my landlady find suitable SD ammo for her .38 spl revolver. I posted a thread here, and got a lot of reasonable advice and suggestions. (I moved from that place before I was able to help her resolve that, and have more important stuff to do now.) Once again, I find myself in a similar situation. One of my neighbors downstairs has a problematic neighbor that seems to be involved in illegal activity, and she has some kind of twisted relationship with a guy upstairs that's issuing threats of physical violence. ("There will be blood shed", he said to one tenant in a sweeping threat to everyone in the building who might mess with him.) And he's posting crap on FB about needing to kill someone. (Yes, we're interacting with the police about this, but it's going to be difficult for them to sort out.) My good neighbor also has her disabled daughter living with her. So she's got some concerns. So, for the first time in her 60-something year old life, she wants to buy a handgun. Another neighbor and I who have a common interest in guns and knives (I'm turning him onto ESEE) are conversing with her about suggestions. I was going to suggest a 20 ga shotgun -- since she's never owned a gun in her life, and we live in an apartment building. But she says she now wants to be able to concealed carry, so ... no shotgun. That brings us to our other top suggestion for her: Ruger's newly redesigned LCP II in .380 ACP. Yes, I know many argue it's a mouse gun and inadequate for SD, but this is an older woman, and newer SD ammo is helping Mickey catch up with the bigger, badder calibers. Here's a good short video of the differences between the two versions (old v new). I've watched several vids so far -- especially Hickok 45 and Nutnfancy -- and both sing it's praises very highly. I'm impressed. Even though I'm a 9 mm guy, and love my LC9s, I still want one of these new LCP's for special occasions, when pocket or ankle carry is demanded, or as a backup if -- er, no wait, when civilization collapses and we're living in general social chaos. <ahem> We're also going to suggest she look at some revolvers -- we're planning a field trip to our fav gun shop soon. But to get a .38 spl light enough for her and her purse will potentially mean some stiff recoil. Still, she's open to considering all options. OK, finally, to my questions. 1) for those who have shot both 9 mm (that I know) and .380 (that I don't), what's a rough comparison of recoil. I know .380 is less, but how much? Is it more like .380 recoil is 90% of 9 mm or 60%? Yes, yes, I know that the weight of the gun will factor in as will which loads are fired -- but I'm looking for broad, average generalities. 2) For those who've handled an LCP II, is the slide really that much easier to rack? This is an older woman who's clearly spent no time in the gym for at least, say, 30 years. She's not a weakling, but I doubt a lot of hand strength. Any other comments, suggestions also welcome. Thanks in advance.